What will love look like in 100 years from now?
May 9, 2010
I’m a great believer that we are moving forward into a time when consciousness will shift. I believe that we will get to the stage where we can move out of the ego and into a more loving aspect and higher levels of consciousness. This is the only way I believe that we can have world peace.
Albert Einstein once said: ‘The problems that face us cannot be solved at the same level of consciousness that created them. What we need is a shift in consciousness’.
What the shift of consciousness looks like is very hard to explain but it is only my ego that will be able to put into words, inner knowing has no words. So in the crude description I believe that we will no longer communicate through words that through our energy towards each other. I believe that sexual connection will be a pure form of expression of love. Possibly intercourse would be reserved only for making children as we were found deeper ways of being able to fulfill sexual needs. I believe that sexual connection will not be reserved to one life partner. But we were feel a next action of love that is inclusive, and not possessive. This does not mean that we will not have life partners but that our choice of partner will be governed by the person that we want to grow through life with. Many people don’t realise that for a woman being in a relationship with one man for the rest of her life is a dream come true. For a man being in a relationship with one woman for the rest of his life is letting go of a dream. For a man he dreams more of being in the presence of a full range of women. Why wouldn’t he? Woman are awesome!! Long term relationships are for one letting go of a dream and for another a dream come true. Put like this, it hardly seems right. I am not saying that men should sleep around if he wants to. Just that there is an expanded non-ego based view. The ego will always lie or justify to make its dreams come true. When we expand our view of what love means, we simply can’t limit love to bring one persons dream into life whilst killing another. That simply isn’t love, its ego.
For many people currently being in a relationship is about limiting options rather than expanding them. This isn’t a 1960s idea of free love, but a way of being able to feel the presence of God in another person bringing out the presence of God in yourself.
Of course there is the opposite idea that we might not shift consciousness that we might stay working through our ego. The next hundred years would not fill me with optimism if you were still coming from a place lack of balance. In this case I would believe that sex would be used as a tool of oppression. More talk of sexually transmitted diseases would create more fear. We would find ways of being able to have sex without human contact. It is even possible to use the Internet to arrange marriages. Making connections through statistics rather than emotions. Separation between people would become greater. We do not have community we become weaker as people. There would be a rise in disease and illness and more control via ego led powerful governments. as I write this, I keep seeing images of George Orwell’s 1984 when the couple get arrested for making love.
We are at a time of shift, for me the first form of shift is within the way we join together in love. It’s the small partial change of how we join together as community. We need to join together to make the changes we need to make, to be in a world we want to love living in.
April 17, 2011 at 7:52 pm
I’ve always been attracted by the the idea of what’s now called ‘polyamory’ – with the word love in it – of inclusive relationships. It does seem to be the most potentially beautiful way into the future – and out of the present impasse where serial monogamy seems to be causing a trail of shredded hearts as people are forced to choose between either one person or another which is often impossible, a bit closed and in the long term maybe a bit dreary ! Quite apart from the overly high expectations and dreams people have of what a relationship is. There’s too much focus on ‘love’ in coupledom rather than friendships etc. I wrote a line ‘I believe in polyamory but it doesn’t suit my personality ! ‘ I think I mean that base emotions like insecurity, fear of losing someone and sexual jealousy are so basic and ‘natural’ and just do exist if not in oneself then the ‘other’ man/woman ! And people can also find it flattering + reassuring – an actual expression of ‘love’ – unfortunately including me now ! .For years I thought I could never feel jealousy and was quite snobby about it – till my reasoning departed and it struck like a poisonous cloud making me want to spit and kill !!!! . Absolutely all parties have to be highly intelligent and empathic, kind and mature with an understanding of the mechanics of power and its abuse..It needs a depth of love, compassion, self-honesty, courage and honesty in men – + women – which are just so very very rare that polyamory will probably just remain an ‘ideal’. But if love in friendship (as spiritual family) were given more value it would be a big improvement.